In one of our previous articles, we reflected on how current arranged marriages function and in this article we are going to provide you with some insight into why there is a decline in arranged marriages in certain communities.
Betrothals, blind marriages and picture-bride marriages were some of the common terms used worldwide for arranged marriages during the 18th- early 20th Century.
So why are modern societies moving away from the ideals of arranged marriages?
The principles of an arranged marriage are more than just a third party bringing together a bride and groom. It involves the consideration of the wealth of the two families, age, career prospects, and religious beliefs. A lot of thought is put into finding the right match for matrimony so that it checks all of the above boxes even before the alliance has been announced.
The two types of arranged marriages are Endogamous- where the couple finds a partner within the family. This is still practiced by certain communities around the world to preserve the bloodline for the future. It is also easier to adapt to the new family since their traditions would be more or less similar. This can be seen as common practice within the Royal Families of the world.
But for the last 50 years communities have been adapting their ideals to include the second type, Exogamous arranged marriages, where the partner is not limited to near family. This is because Science has argued that centuries of Endogamous weddings have led to a limited gene pool within communities. It only increases the chances of heritable diseases due to gene incompatibility.
More recently though ideals of arranged marriages within communities have transformed with the changes in accessibility to places in the world, education and technology. More people are inclined to find their own partner due to the increasing sense of individualism and higher levels of social mobility.
Humans have evolved into more pragmatic individuals where caste, religion and race does not play a major role in finding their significant other like the olden days.
We had reached out to several people to understand their perspective and one story stood out for us. A couple who were together for 5 years had met through a common relative. Although they were matched in age and financial position, they were from different religions and their families were against the alliance. The couple persevered and married despite the objections and today their family has come around to the idea of them being together. Their advice to couples struggling with family pressures is to follow your heart and make sure your loved ones understand the reason behind your actions.
At the end of the day we are rather looking for a deep emotional connection with that one other person who understands us for who we are and loves us unconditionally. Isn’t that what we all yearn for?